I received copious correspondence from my lawyer yesterday that included copies of letters he received from Phil's lawyer. There are several references to this blog in it. Apparently she and/or Phil scrutinize it regularly for evidence of malice and wrong-doing. Amazingly, they find it in the form of my unfulfilled potential, as well as misinterpretation and ignorance of the facts. It seems that one of my biggest crimes is not becoming a successful commercial artist. This is a recurring theme in their complaints. I am tempted to defend myself, except that what I did with my life after Phil walked out is irrelevant. Why did Sarah herself not become a supreme court judge? Why did Phil not become a dealer in vintage cars? Anyone could have done things differently.
The law is very convoluted, and I have to assume that this woman knows what she is doing. Somehow she must feel that Phil has been wronged and that I deserve to be blamed and punished to the extreme that my only source of income is taken away. When I was dealing with the firm of Rudman Winchell all those years ago, I was amazed at the attorneys' compassion and sense of justice. Because of them, I was convinced that the unflattering reputation of lawyers was a huge misunderstanding by the general populace. I am seeing the other side now, being forced to look at the vicious self-centeredness I never knew existed, particularly not in my own husband, and the willingness of attorneys to take advantage of it.
One belief I have always held is that the lust for money corrupts and destroys human values. If nothing else, this experience is proving me right.